A few concerned readers emailed to ask how I’m doing, and the answer is “just fine, thank you”. I had a little freakout Saturday, which I generously allowed the entire online community to share, but, realizing there isn’t much I can do at the moment except to look on the bright side, I have decided to take positive steps to restoring my good cheer.
The first was to turn on my Kindle wireless and watch Jill Shalvis’ Slow Heat and Wendy the Super Librarian’s Blogger Bundle of Jill St. John titles magically appear. (And also a third book I swear I don’t remember buying, called How To Write a Lot, for academics. Erm. Moving right along…).
And the second step to taking my mind off my worries is, naturally, surfing the web for inconsequential things to get annoyed about.
I blogged a while back about how best to immediately ratchet up my status from romance fan to irretrievably obsessed fangirl meet some fellow readers and authors in person this year, and that post and ensuing dicusssion included mention of the Romantic Times Book Lovers Convention, the Lori Forster Reader Get Together, the RWA Annual Conference, and a new one, RomCon™. (Every single mention of RomCon on the RomCon website has a “TM” after it. I’m too lazy to replicate that, but be aware someone has claimed rights.)
The gist I got at the time, was that RWA is really not for readers or bloggers, but we can have fun there anyway, that RT is pretty geared towards the cavemen/party/sexy games side of romance fandom, and that RomCon would be a new kind of conference, explicitly for readers (unlike RWA) yet a more comfortable place for those, like me, who want to meet their favorite authors and get together with other bloggers without having to play musical chairs on the laps of well oiled cover models.
Looking at RomCon program recently, I noticed the event seems … a lot like like RT after all. It offers a lot of games and scavenger hunts, such as “Midnight Sexcapades: a naughty late night romp”. Many other events promise to help attendees fulflll their “obsessions” with various kinds of heroes, such as “Be Still My Heart: Does your favorite hero’s heart beat?”, or “Anti-Heroes You Hate to Love: Do you love the Dark, Desirable and Deadly heroes?”, or “Build a Hero” where attendees work in teams to …. well, you get the idea. Probably the most bizarre event is the “Weapons Gallery”, so we can “see what the heroes we love to read about take into battle!”
Other events that seem a bit more serious nevertheless have sexy titles. For example “Strip the Heroine” is actually an event with Jo Beverley about how historical heroines dressed. Don’t worry that you will actually see nakedness, though. We are told this event will be “oh-so-delicately handled by leading historical authors who know exactly what women wore . . . or didn’t!”. “Speed Date an Author” is just a chance to meet new authors, not, alas, a way to hook up. And “Shock the Queen” focuses on etiquette in Victorian England.
Now, what kind of icon do you suppose fits this fun, sexcapadey event?
This one?
On the plus side, it’s great that the organizers did not defer to traditional norms of beauty, and kudos for choosing an image of a woman with political power. But I have to wonder who decided that a queen who is either very stoned, very confused, very nearsighted, very annoyed, or all of the above (perhaps because she’s having a very bad hair day — she seems to have overdone the gel on her left side) was an inviting choice?
There are a lot of events that sound really interesting, including some of those I’ve mentioned. And as a romance reader, I know all too well not to take marketing as a 100% accurate picture of content (covers and titles, anyone?). Finally, it’s the attendees that will set the tone, something no one can predict in advance.
But I confess, I was a little surprised at how much of the event focuses on the fantasy aspect of romance, the desire of readers to have a hero for themselves, to live as heroines did, and the sexy side of things (or rather the “naughty” side. For all the innuendo in the advertising, there is no panel on sexuality of any kind as far as I can see). I’m guessing this is no different than sci fi cons with their costumes and parades (although I doubt Dragon Con promo materials promise that its attendees will be “giddy teenagers” when they pose for pictures with authors). And I know many will really enjoy the games and scavenger hunts — after all, why spend the money and attend a conference if it isn’t going to be fun? But, after looking at the program, it honestly doesn’t sound like my kind of thing. It may only be in cyberspace that I feel like an average romance reader after all.
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#1 by Sherry Thomas on February 3, 2010 - 7:34 pm
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Oh, glad you feel better–I was just wondering. (And now I don’t have to show my cuddlier side by emailing you.)
And frankly, I’m not totally sure that the fans who attend romance conferences are your average fans either. They would, at the very least, be considered superfans.
#2 by katiebabs on February 3, 2010 - 7:42 pm
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I wish I could go to all. But I have gone 2 years in a row to RWA and had a wonderful time as a blogger and an undercover author
#3 by Lynne Connolly on February 3, 2010 - 9:27 pm
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I fly over from the UK to Romantic Times every year. The oiled models get all the blog space because they make good headlines, but RT is much more than that. There’s a full program of classes and talks, as well as editor and agent appointments, publisher spotlights and so on. Check out the website for the full program. Theres also a two day precon series of classes for the beginner and advanced writer.
Of course, if you happen to like beefcake, you can go for that as well!
#4 by azteclady on February 3, 2010 - 11:53 pm
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*sigh* I soooooo want to go to both RT and RWA!
But I don’t think it’s gonna happen–the plastic only stretches so far, you know?
#5 by Victoria Janssen on February 4, 2010 - 9:34 am
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I’m glad you’re feeling more the thing.
It ended up being an easy decision for me, since both RT and RomCon conflict with other things. So I’ve registered for RWA.
#6 by KristieJ on February 4, 2010 - 9:47 am
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I’m going to 2 of the 4 you mentioned – the RT convention and the RWA conference – so I REALLY hope you will be at one or the other of those ones.
#7 by Jessica on February 4, 2010 - 11:05 am
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@azteclady: Plastic? what is that? I pay for everything with cash. Pennies actually. (kidding!)
@Victoria Janssen: @KristieJ: My plan is to go to RWA, provided I am gainfully employed. I was looking again at RomCon, thinking it was cheaper, but it really isn’t when I add in the extra airfare to get to Colorado versus staying on the Eastern seaboard. So crossing my fingers I’ll see you (and Azteclady) there!
@Lynne Connolly: I am sure I do have a skewed perspective of RT. Unfortunately, I am teaching at that time, so no traveling except for business.
@katiebabs: I hope to see you at RWA as well, if you can swing it!
@Sherry Thomas: I just don’t understand why no one is putting on my kind of conference: lots of quiet reading time, small chats in hushed tones, delicious meals, and very expensive gin.
#8 by Wendy on February 4, 2010 - 11:42 am
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Heee, Jill St. John is the actress. My blogger bundle features Cheryl St. John
I really can’t swing more than one conference, unless one of said conferences is…well…more local. So this year it’s RWA only – and that’s because I’ll be working. I spend 40% of the conference wearing my Blogger Hat and the other 60% wearing my Librarian Hat.
2011 looks like the year I’ll finally be making it to RT. They’re hitting L.A. – although why they haven’t done Vegas yet is beyond me. That seems like a match made in heaven. I know quite a few people going to RT this year though, and expect a full report!
#9 by Jill Sorenson on February 4, 2010 - 11:44 am
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LOL! Feeling good enough for wisecracks, I see.
I wish I could attend more conferences. Oiled models, ugh, but a lot of the other stuff sounds fun.
#10 by Holly on February 5, 2010 - 12:49 am
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I think it’s wonderful that a conference geared more toward readers was finally put together, but I’m a little put off by all the fantasy aspects as well. I guess I was hoping for something a little different.
I don’t think I’ll be attending any conferences this year. As much as I’d like to attend RWA I don’t think it’ll be possible. Someday…
#11 by Sherry Thomas on February 5, 2010 - 8:52 am
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@Jessica:
I wouldn’t know expensive gin from engine coolant, but I’m fairly anti-social myself, as are, frankly, the majority of the writing community. But putting thousands of us together and somehow we transform into a very drunk, very loud, very ribald assembly incapable of such things as quiet reading time or small chats in hushed tones.
Food will be bad, people will be in a party mood, and you’ll have to shout at some point during the entire conference. But meaningful discussions still go down. I’m pretty sure last year Dr. Sarah F. and Meredith Duran had a soul-shattering tete-a-tete. I, however, was too busy screaming and laughing about anatomically incorrect sex scenes.
RWA is Vegas for us, come to think of it.
Then another year, when I was still in grad school, I brought homework to the conference, and was assiduously reading through a textbook on corporate taxation each afternoon. So really, you structure your time as you choose.
And from my perspective, I do think RWA is the right conference for you.
#12 by Victoria Janssen on February 5, 2010 - 11:05 am
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WOO RWA! It will be really cool to meet you.
How much gin should we buy you?
#13 by Jessica on February 5, 2010 - 11:15 am
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@Wendy: *headdesk* Cheryl St John!
@Sherry Thomas: “Vegas for introverts” sounds fantastic! If I still have a job, I will be at the RWA this year.
@Victoria Janssen: Me too. But I am kidding about the gin. I don’t plan to touch a drop of alcohol, having to keep up my image as the most soberly pedantic, least fun person in Romland.
#14 by Victoria Janssen on February 6, 2010 - 9:34 am
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Awwwwwwwwwwww. How are we supposed to get incriminating pictures?
#15 by SonomaLass on February 6, 2010 - 9:13 pm
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I’m going to RomCon because I won a free registration from the Borders romance blog — churlish not to use it. I’m looking forward to meeting some familiar folks in person for the first time, and to meeting some authors, and just seeing what happens. None of the fantasy stuff appeals, but I figure I don’t have to participate in anything that’s not my kind of thing. I’ll just hide in my room and read, or (much more likely) prop up the bar with some like-minded soul(s). As I know from fantasy and sci-fi cons, there will be all sorts of different folks in attendance, and it’s not hard to find others who share your taste in social activities.
Glad to hear you are keeping your spirits up. And speaking of spirits, I completely blame you for the $80 I just spent on the BIG bottle of Hendrick’s!
#16 by Jessica on February 7, 2010 - 8:59 am
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@SonomaLass: Oh, a free registration is not something to be ignored. And I agree, at such a large fan convention, there are a variety of activities that will appeal to different folks.
I was put off, honestly, by not just the content, which I admit is a matter of subjective preference, but also by what I felt was an infantilizing of romance readers by the language used. But again, we all have our prickly issues.
Oh, drugged, blindfolded and dragged you to the packy* did I? Hmmm…. Enjoy!
*New England speak for “package store”, ie liquor store.