
Links of Interest
Holly at Book Binge posted about Facebook Fan Pages, especially for authors, and why they can annoy her.
Noting the “make or break” nature of that first book, Dear Author is compiling an awesome list of debut books.
Witchy Chicks has an interesting post which reveals the ways in which an editor takes the readers’ viewpoint, by suggesting changes based on her perceptions of what readers “can handle” or would like to read.
Magdalen, a new-to-me voice in Romland, has a guest post on the difference between angsty and emotionally satisfying romances at Monkey Bear Reviews.
Because some people still need reminding, BookEndsLLC has a post on authors and their blogs with a simple list of “do’s”.
I liked the post at TGTBTU on snippiness in Romland, and the way the author connects it up with stresses in the publishing industry. Along similar lines, Ana of The Book Smugglers posted about repetition in historical romance. Check out their Weekly Stash for a link to Ana’s initial post and a couple of related posts, including one from The Story Siren about ARCs and the expectations publishers have of bloggers who receive them.

Judaism and Identity
You may have heard that prestigious Jews’ Free School in London denied a pupil admittance because it determines Jewishness by matrilineal decent and this child’s mom had converted. The conversion itself was not the problem, but rather, that she had converted with a Reform (liberal) rabbi, so the conversion didn’t “count” from the perspective of the Orthodox school.
The parents sued and eventually won. The British courts said the school’s practice of determining who is a Jew by the mother’s ethnic status is discriminatory and unlawful.
From the NY Times article ( see also reaction from the Huffington Post)
In an explosive decision, the court concluded that basing school admissions on a classic test of Judaism — whether one’s mother is Jewish — was by definition discriminatory. Whether the rationale was “benign or malignant, theological or supremacist,” the court wrote, “makes it no less and no more unlawful.”
The case rested on whether the school’s test of Jewishness was based on religion, which would be legal, or on race or ethnicity, which would not. The court ruled that it was an ethnic test because it concerned the status of M’s mother rather than whether M considered himself Jewish and practiced Judaism
This question hits very close to home. I am a convert to Judaism, also in the Reform tradition. I know that my conversion, and my kids’ status as Jews, is not recognized by Orthodox Jews. My kids do not have the right of return to Israel, although my Conservative Jewish husband, with Jewish roots on both sides going back as far as a genealogist can tell, would, even if he became an evangelical Christian.
As a convert, I constantly experience the reality that Jewishness is an ethnicity. I do not have the same set of shared traditions, the same connection to Jewish history, as ethnic Jews. When I meet new people, I wonder sometimes whether or when to “reveal” the fact that I am a convert — am I ‘passing” if I don’t? My first name is of Hebrew origin, and my looks — brownish black hair and grayish olive skin — wouldn’t signal it the way a first name like “Christine” or “Faith” and blond hair would.
My conversion was a long process: a 26 week group class followed by another 6 months of solo learning with a rabbi. At the end, I went before a Rabbinical court (bet din), immersed myself in the mikvah, and was called to the bimah where I recited a Torah portion (not all at once, thankfully). There was nothing hasty or superficial about it. My Jewish in-laws were thrilled with my conversion, but bemused by my knowledge of Jewish law and religious ritual. My mother-in-law is as Jewish as it gets (my husband was the first person in his family on either side to marry a nonJew), yet she never set foot in the synagogue unless it was for a High Holy Day or a wedding. But she makes a mean brisket and awesome latkes.
The debate ensuing in London is a painful reminder of the divisions within the Jewish community but also of the richness of the meaning of the word “Jewish”. I oppose the decision of the Jews’ Free School, and I oppose in principle the idea that one group of Jews can tell another group they “don’t count.” I hope the events in England help invigorate and move forward the ongoing discussion of “who is a Jew”.
But what does this have to do with romance? Well… nothing much, although Hanukkah is coming up, and last year I read a pretty good Hanukkah romance. Hanukkah is a minor holiday, so I am not too surprised, although folks have yet to explore the erotic possibilities of the awe and atonement that is Yom Kippur, as well. Does anyone know if there are any recently pubbed Hanukkah roms or new ones on the horizon?

3. Thanks to Jmc_Books , I already got some helpful replies to my question about Hanukkah themed romance. And I have already read one of them, a short called Eight Nights by Keira Andrews (Loose-I.D., 2008, $3.99). It is part of their Festival of Lights collection, from which I also purchased Bad Brad, for another $3.99.
There’s a lot I could say about these stories, starting with the hefty $3.99 price tag for 1000 Kindle “locations”. To compare, Demon Forged by Meljean Brook was 7761 locations for $6.39, and Beyond Daring by Kathleen O’Reilly, a Harlequin Blaze, was $3.40 for 3268 locations.
Eight Nights, in which the more experienced partner reassures the virgin that he’s “clean” immediately after saying he’s not into relationships and has had lots of meaningless sex, got me thinking about expectations of protection in erotic (or any explicit) romance. The partners in this story do use condoms. But what if they had not used them? One objection might be that this kind of story, in which “true loves means blind yet well placed trust” represents a dangerous reality to which we should not give credence, even in fantasy. But, says the other voice, it’s fantasy: little about this perfect sexual relationship and these two perfect bodies is based in reality. Why accept all the other fantasy elements, and pause at “no condoms”?
For the first time, I saw this as similar to the issue of “accurately portraying BDSM”, “rape in romance” and any other similarly controversial issue. That is, when people object to the lack of birth control in romance, are they staying within the text and making an aesthetic objection, along the lines, of “this doesn’t fit these characters in this situation” or are they making a moral claim outside the text, as in “this scene shores up myths or practices that real people believe or do, which are very harmful, and therefore you shouldn’t write it.”
I enjoyed the well-written Eight Nights, by the way, even if it was a very predictable, with a schematic plot designed mainly to provide opportunities to scale the ladder of sexual awakening (has anyone invented a board game? Shoots and Ladders?). It is what it is — an erotic m/m short.
Not sure what I will do with the blog this week. It is a busy one for me.
HAPPY WEEK!
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#1 by Jane on November 16, 2009 - 1:23 pm
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I think the author of the snippiness article was Lynne Connolly at Sybil’s site.
#2 by Victoria Janssen on November 16, 2009 - 1:27 pm
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As I mentioned on Twitter, Judith Arnold’s SWEET LIGHT (Harlequin American Romance) had a Hanukkah theme.
#3 by Magdalen on November 16, 2009 - 1:32 pm
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I’m not religious, although when I married a man who hadn’t been baptized, I did have a superstitious frisson of anxiety before reminding myself that what mattered was his quality as a human being, not whether someone had sprinkled water on him 42 years earlier.
For an agnostic, Henry turned out to be a marvel of religious information. He has never broken a commandment, knows the bible better than anyone I’ve ever known, was able to explain the “end of days” connection to the number 666 to an evangelical once (that was a surreal conversation to witness) and charmed a rabbi at a friend’s son’s bar mitzvah. (Somehow the topic had gotten around to which insects are trayf — and it surprised me not at all that Henry knew which were and which weren’t.)
But the matrilineal component to Judaism is perplexing. I’m descended through the matrilineal line from a woman who was either a gypsy or Jewish. We’d always assumed the former, but when my cousin — the son of an Episcopal priest — married a Jew, her parents might well have been mollified to know there was a possibility he was –in this blood sense — Jewish. Despite his upbringing as a Christian. Does that make sense, really? Should it?
#4 by Jessica on November 16, 2009 - 1:39 pm
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Thank you, I edited the post. In my defense, I just looked again at the post and cannot for the life of me see the author’s name.
#5 by Janet W on November 16, 2009 - 1:39 pm
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One more link of interest … to me at least! http://teachmetonight.blogspot.com/ There’s a rip-roaringly absorbing discussion over at Teach Me Tonight. I’m no great hand at summing these things up but one question in particular shimmers for me. Is Venetia selfish? (I’m totally scaling down a huge thread). But is she? And there’s a lot more. I will never miss another of these symposiums, if another one is planned. The Austen/Heyer combo is of such interest to me.
#6 by dick on November 16, 2009 - 1:58 pm
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Re the condom issue: Although use or non-use of condoms isn’t one of them, I think, because romance fiction is what it is, there are some things–such as rape and BDSM–that shouldn’t appear in romance fiction because they simply don’t “fit”; they aren’t romantic regardless whether the text supports their appearance.
#7 by azteclady on November 16, 2009 - 5:18 pm
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I think you could talk about me
#8 by Jessica on November 16, 2009 - 5:59 pm
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ok, I will. Watch for my email.
#9 by Sherry Thomas on November 16, 2009 - 7:33 pm
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I think becoming a Christian or a Buddhist or a Muslim is like becoming an American. A pretty commonplace procedure.
Whereas becoming a Jew is more like becoming Chinese.
No matter how much you know about Chinese art, history, food, language, etc., you will always be a bit of a curiosity if you aren’t born into it.
I looked up the JFS, and it receives state funds. What I would like to know, Jessica, or any lawyers present, is that do you think the decision would have been different if this was a completely private school?
#10 by azteclady on November 16, 2009 - 8:43 pm
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@Jessica: “Be careful what you wish for…”
(thank you)
#11 by Reva on November 17, 2009 - 1:16 am
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I’m incredibly tickled by the idea of a Yom Kippur romance. In college, I had a Rabbi who actually did the traditional Shabbat Tshuvah sermon about all of the things that are forbiden on Yom Kippur. In addition to those you learn growing up as an American Reform Jew (eating, drinking, wearing leather) this list includes bathing and marital relations. We were in college, though, so marital relations weren’t an issue and non-marital relations weren’t specifically forbidden for Yom Kippur.
#12 by Marianne McA on November 17, 2009 - 6:19 am
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@Sherry – not in any way a lawyer, but I can’t see how a public (aka private) school could be exempt from the race relations act.
Any faith school is allowed, I think, to discriminate on the basis of faith to a certain extent: but no school would be allowed to discriminate on grounds of race.
#13 by Meri on November 17, 2009 - 8:55 am
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Jessica, are you certain that the law of return doesn’t apply to you and your children? I’m guessing this isn’t something you’re actively considering, but I’m fairly certain you’re all welcome to join us here… For one thing, while non-orthodox conversions done in Israel aren’t recognized, if you converted outside of Israel you should be fine even if it was reform. And since you are married to a Jewish person and your kids have a Jewish father, no problem on that count, either. Here’s the full text of the law on the Knesset website. So you can send your kids over to do Birthright when they’re older, if you want. I hear it’s great fun. And it could be a good setup for a romance novel (-:
Personally, I think Judaism is a religion, an ethnicity, and a culture, though not necessarily all of them for all Jews. It’s very complicated.
Hannukah is too minor a holiday to be interesting. Yom Kippur is too holy for anyone who’s really religious, though the time between Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur might work. Purim could be work, it’s a fun holiday.
#14 by Maili on November 17, 2009 - 10:44 am
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@Sherry Thomas
No, it wouldn’t.
Pfft. ‘A bit of a curiosity’ is surely the politest way of putting it.
#15 by Janine on November 17, 2009 - 3:54 pm
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You took the words right out of my mouth, Meri.
Re. Hanukkah, I think the reason such a minor holiday gets so much more attention in proportion to Jewish holidays that are much more important is that it runs more or less concurrently with Christmas. Non-Jews sometimes mistake it for having Christmas-like significance to us Jews, no doubt in part because of the present-giving tradition that was not part of the holiday originally but has evolved here in the U.S. (and perhaps in other Christian countries?)
Am I the only one who would like to see Passover get some play in a book? That is quite possibly my favorite holiday. Although if the book were to be set in Israel, I would be tempted by the costumes of Purim or (even better IMO) the bonfires of Lag BaOmer.
#16 by Jessica on November 17, 2009 - 5:21 pm
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@Meri: Meri, I am sure you are right. Perhaps what my rabbi meant — when he was warning me on my conversion — was that I may not be considered “Jewish” in Israel.
@Janine: Of course, it’s the competition with Christmas. But as someone with kids who do not celebrate Christmas, I am happy for it — it eases their sense of oddness, living as we do in a community where they have been the only Jewish children in their grades through their school years.
But Purim raises so many possibilities — cross dressing, maybe? and Passover … talk about hiding the Afikomen. Rwarrrrr.
@Sherry Thomas: Sherry, I like that analogy, and I see Maili has answered your question (thanks Maili!). Yes, I believe that was the problem, that the state could support religious freedom but not at the cost of supporting ethnic discrimination.
@dick: Well, there seems to be a lot of romance fiction with at least “light” BDSM, whether m/f or m/m, so I am not sure your view that this disqualifies it from the romance genre (if I understood your comment) is widely shared. I guess it goes to the question of what counts as romantic, and I see so much disagreement there among readers on so many issues (infidelity, for example).
@Janet W: Thanks so much for the links!
#17 by Lynne Connolly on December 19, 2009 - 7:41 pm
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@Jessica:
Google brought me here. I’m glad you liked the post. I’m on at The Good, The Bad and The Unread as LynneC. I suppose I should add my banner or something to my posts, but I blog there because I love doing it. I started when Syb asked me if I wanted to do some posts on Romantic Times Convention, and I just stayed on. I review mainly HMB categories and do the occasional comment column.