[This is part one of a two part post on my relationship to my TBR pile.]
I’ve been thinking about the changes that my romance reading has wrought in my life. It’s no fun blogging about the obvious ones: I’m less dissatisfied with my life of drudgery now that I can escape into fantasy on a regular basis; I’m more likely to excuse bad male behavior because I understand how hard it is to be a man; I have a reliable way to satisfy various psychological needs created by a patriarchal culture that cannot fulfill them; I’ve lost several IQ points, considering that every minute of romance reading could have been spent with Chaucer or Dickens; and my ability to tolerate moral ambiguity has gone straight to “h-e-double-hockey sticks”, as we say round these parts.
But none of those things really matter to me given a much more serious state of affairs:
I now have a TBR pile.
It exists, it takes up space I don’t have, and it only shows signs of growth.
You, dear reader, may not recall what it was like not to have a TBR pile, so let me refresh your memory (don’t worry if you don’t get it the first time. Read and repeat until it starts to make narrative sense.):
Once upon a time, I bought a book, and I read it. While reading said book, I did not shop for a new book. Why? Because I already had a book. When I finished the book, I just went to the bookstore and bought a new book. And so, the circle of reading continued. It was elegant in its simplicity, unassailable in its logic, and deeply kind to my wallet.
And then … something happened.
When I try to connect the dots in my romance acquisition habits from then to now (B.P — before the pile, to A.P — after the pile), I hear an odd popping sound and feel a little dizzy, which tells me that I am doing battle with a force much stronger than my own brain, but in the name of honesty in blogging, I’m going to try to retrace my steps:
At first, it was just buying more books at one time than I could read. I don’t know where to lay the blame for this, but I am pretty sure it had to do with the “Buy 3, Get a 4th Romance Free” deal at Borders.
Then, it was my need to support my local used book seller. After all, he has so many romances and we live in such a small town… and since they’re “pre-read” it’s not even like buying books. It’s more like — er — adopting them.
Later, I thought I could satisfy my new thirst for more books by merely browsing blogs in romancelandia. Predictably (oh, how clearly I see it now) I found myself filling comment boxes with “That sounds great, I’ve got to read that one.” which automatically generated a series of actions that (I’m foggy on precise sequence, although I know it has occurred, via backwards induction, every time the UPS guy rings my bell) included Bookmarks — Amazon — Search — One Click.
But then, when my wallet began to protest, I hit EBay, and, as everyone knows, in order to get that one out of print Jayne Ann Krentz or Judith Ivory you want, well, you’re positively forced to buy a “lot” of 3 or maybe 20 other books along with it. (But when you divide the price by the number of books, as I explain patiently to DH, it comes out to like fifty cents a book, so I am actually SAVING us money).
The final straw came when books started literally throwing themselves in my path, or at least, that’s how it felt to me when my local supermarket started hosting a used book table to benefit local charities: at 25 cents a paperback, all those old Silhouettes look pretty darn appealing. And did I mention it’s for a good cause?
So now I have this TBR pile, and a constant desire to add to it. Oddly, nothing makes me less likely to actually read a book than placing it in my TBR pile, and I can tell this is not an unusual state, when so many romance bloggers use coercive techniques, such as public shaming, to get each other to delve into said pile (TBR Challenge anyone? Hmmmmm???).
I’m not particularly acquistion oriented. I hate shopping actually, and do it as infrequently as possible. I don’t collect anything (Unless grudges count. Kidding!). I don’t buy jewelry, knick knacks (shudder), or kitchen wares. My personal style was set in my early twenties, trends be damned, and my clothes shopping has mainly consisted of replacing items as they have worn out with new items as close as possible to the originals.
So my TBR pile baffles me.
And yet, my TBR pile doesn’t care if I accept its existence or understand its evolution. It only wants to be fed. And feed it I will. Dammit.
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#1 by Tumperkin on December 2, 2008 - 4:26 pm
Since I started blogging, I’ve become more curious about books than I was before. When I first started checking out review sites I was genuinely just searching for stuff I thought I’d like. Now I buy books for other reasons – because they’re classics of the genre or because someone whose opinion I rate has really liked them. I think it’s this increase in my book buying choice criteria that has caused my TBR pile to come about.
#2 by RfP on December 2, 2008 - 5:56 pm
I’ve had lengthy TBR lists ever since I can remember–literally since I was a child. Like Tumperkin, my list gets longer because I read online reviews. I rarely have a *pile* though; I still buy or borrow only what I plan to read immediately. (I also walk past a bookstore and a library on my way home, so I can browse on demand; perhaps that helps.) If I ever do have an acquisitive fit, though, you’ll hear about it. “Bibliophile Crushed By Pile of Books. Story on page 7.”
#3 by Ana on December 2, 2008 - 6:18 pm
LOL: I recognise the steps, Jessica.
And you know what comes next?
BOOK SMUGGLING.
: )
#4 by JC on December 2, 2008 - 6:18 pm
Thankfully, I don’t have a TBR pile. As soon as I have a book I read it, to the point that other life events fade away.
I’m very wary of the TBR pile
#5 by Sara on December 2, 2008 - 6:24 pm
Welcome to the club!
I know exactly what you mean. I remember the good old days when I used to enjoy browsing in libraries… before I started working in one. Now I just have WAY too many books to read (and mine is more of a TBR basket, a pile would just fall over!)
#6 by Phyl on December 2, 2008 - 10:30 pm
Ha! Cracks me up. I buy some books and borrow others from the library. The library books have (the nerve!) due dates. Yes. I have to read the book by a certain date. TBR books are never overdue. They never send nasty emails reminding me to return them from whence they came. No. They quietly sit there and behave. Library books are demanding. I am weak. I read the library books. I don’t read the TBR books.
#7 by JenB on December 2, 2008 - 11:42 pm
Oh my goodness, I thought I was reading my own story.
Now that I have 300 books on my TBR shelf, I seem to read less than ever. And STRESS over what to read next! All my time is spent shopping for books and reading ABOUT books, not actually reading the books themselves.
I also smuggle books. I have the bigger orders shipped to the office instead of my home. When I go to the used book store, I leave most of the books under the car seat and only bring in 2-3. So bad. *blush*
#8 by Violet on December 3, 2008 - 4:43 am
you are sooo right, this is how the TBR pile grows, it now looks at me accusingly every time
#9 by Jill D. on December 3, 2008 - 8:38 am
Jessica, this post totally cracked me up. You are so funny girl! As long as my TBR pile is under 50 books, I consider it nonexistent
#10 by Leslie on December 3, 2008 - 8:50 am
I absolutely love the adoption angle. Yes, that’s what I’ve been doing, adopting books. Giving them a good home where I can gaze upon them and longingly wish for time to read them.
And I just caught myself smuggling the other day. I stuck the bag of used books(12)in the back of the boys closet because there’s no room on any of my bookcases. I swore when I ran out of room I would stop buying until I had more room but…
#11 by Heloise on December 3, 2008 - 11:10 am
Not only was your post funny and horrifyingly familiar but the comments are funny and horrifyingly edifying as well.
I knew I had a TBR problem, but couldn’t understand why I kept creating new places to store them all over the house, frustrating myself when trying to tidy up. Of course! I’m attempting to not put new books in the ‘real’ TBR pile because I know it’s a death sentence (that book looked like it was going to be really good until it got into the TBR pile).
And yet another realization, I AM A BOOK SMUGGLER. I had no idea, but the fact that the largest existing TBR pile is under the couch where my husband won’t notice it (far enough back to escape casual visual notice) and that another pile is in the basement bedroom (on a bookshelf so not immediately noticeable when it grows) and that another one is in a basement closet. Oh my. Is there a TBRA or BSA group that I need to seek out? Twelve step program, anyone?
#12 by Bookwormom on December 3, 2008 - 7:29 pm
HAHAHA. <:) I don’t remember not having a TBR. My romance TBR case only has 300 or so titles. That doesn’t count the mysteries or the science fiction.
As to library books- I have to read them first because eventually they have to go back home to the library. They can’t actually live here with me.
#13 by Jessica on December 3, 2008 - 9:27 pm
I’m not sure if you guys made me feel better or worse, but you definitely made me laugh
Regardless, it’s clear most of us have some type of malady, in which the TBR pile is a minor symptom and book smuggling is a major one. We need descriptions, examples, and standards for diagnosis. Stay tuned.
#14 by Ana on December 4, 2008 - 5:50 am
LOL. Smugglivitis (from the official Book Smugglers’ dictionary *wink*) is an affliction that is more common than you can imagine. *g*
#15 by KristieJ on December 4, 2008 - 8:27 am
It starts off with a whisper and unless you are paying attention, you don’t even notice that books are calling to you. Then, when you don’t pay attention, they enlist the aid of others – buy 3 – get one free, spend a certain amount and get free shipping – all kinds of little tricks. By this time you are starting to hear them when they call your name. But then they start yelling, the seductive voices impossible to ignore. And before you know it – you have what we call the TBR pile. And it scares us as it keeps getting bigger and bigger and bigger!!
#16 by carolyn jean on December 4, 2008 - 9:32 am
OMG, this is so hilarious. I never had a TBR pile either until 2 or 3 years back when I converted over from a state of never reading any genre literature to reading it voraciously. A book used to just last!!
#17 by Jessica on December 4, 2008 - 9:51 am
Kristie — I am sorry to inform you that one of the signs of the malady is “personifying any of the following: your TBR pile, an individual book, your wallet, or your purse, in an effort to displace personal responsibility for book purchases onto an inanimate object.”